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Author: chicpencil
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I finally decided to go for Nikon SB600 for my Nikon D200. After reading all reviews and comparison against SB800, well I prefer to use the SB600.
I bought my SB600 while on holidays in Germany. And test drive it during my birthday celebration. Even without reading the manual, the Nikon SB600 didn’t fail me and gave me dramatic outcome of my shots during the celebration…
When we were teens, life was simple. Parents are always there when we need them and family and friends are the usually cast of characters of our youth. We started to develop crushes and infatuations and as we grew, it all turn up to become relationships.
In relationships, young as we are, we tend to open our hearts completely. And girls would wait for that one day, someone would popped the question in a very romantic scene and with tears in the woman’s eyes, she would respond ‘Yes’…
Men will look forward to taking the girl of his dream to that union where he is willing to give up all of this freedom for the woman that he loves.
It seems to be a fairy tale, and yes it can happen… And life is all about reality… With different pressures in life, culture, and society, people changes heart. And the tears of happiness can be tears of pains.
That’s when a person starts to guard his or her feelings. Fear will start to rule the heart. The question of when a person is willing to let go again of his or herself is a matter of indefinite. Until the wounds are completely healed.
Trust can easily be given but within a matter of seconds, it can leave and erases the once good memory of friendship.
People come and people do leave. Some come back and some will never look back.
When people come into our lives, they come in different packages as they are all gifts. But when they leave, they all leave the same – that is, sadness. However, regardless of exits, we should be thankful that they came as they have given us happiness during their stay. That is their footprint.
We can control ourselves but we can’t control what’s beyond us. We commit mistakes by hiding ourselves due to fear of loss.
Some of us are lucky to be given chances but some are not and without a choice, close the door with sadness.
Here’s a promise to Dylan. Due to time constraints, this song lacked the melody.
The Sea
Life is sailing
Everybody’s searching freedom
Like a warm breeze each morning
Realizing everything’s the same
Heart is the shell guarded by dolphins
Cruel creatures of ocean
Course to iceberg
Wind is unstable
Slowly like the flow of freedom
Swayed by the winds
Embracing the waves
Destinations.. it’s the destination.
The sea is the view
Enjoying the view
Loving embracing the blues
Enjoying the view
Heart is the shell guarded by dolphins
Cruel creatures of ocean
Course to iceberg
Wind is unstable
Slowly like the flow of freedom
Swayed by the winds
Embracing the waves
Destinations.. it’s the destination.
We met in the virtual world where the rule is to be casual. Millions of people used the online world for lots of reason including the compartmentalization of everyday manusia of living.
People hide their feelings and their real self and online is the safest way to do it.
But you’re different. And things happened for reasons.
We’re both overcoming the hurt and betrayal of the past relationships we had. We shared the feelings of being hurt and the pains we’ve undergone. We both wonder why sadness and pains exist?
This is reality. And oftentimes it bites.
We both believe we are part of the majestic plan. And tomorrow will always be unknown. But for now, we enjoy ourselves with the company and the thought that someone is there, a friend, that is always there for us is a precious gift.
We’re hurting but we both know we will recover like most of the people who have undergone the feeling of separation.
Time heals all wounds.
Tomorrow will always be different. And this too, shall pass.
We’ve all been there before… That unforgettable moment and discussion which usually starts with the magic word…
Baby, I think we need to talk…
And that’s when you get to be stunned… palpitations follow… and then the trembling of the knees…
Regardless of whether you’re at work or just plain sleeping.. you can predict what’s to come when the magic words are popped out from Pandora’s box.
That scene is familiar?
Of course it is… its when we got dumped and there’s no way to undo the scene (though time travels if it is even real would be really helpful to alleviate the excruciating pain).
Why does a relationship breaks?
You keep on reminiscing the past and your shortcomings. You wished that the last argument that you had you didn’t say anything to hurt the other party’s ego. And then you start to beg to reconsider of getting another chance with the relationship.
When the other party says no.. You realized how valueless you are… The reality of being alone will start to sink in… That’s when you start to:
1. You start to become a Whatsapp terrorist by sending thousands of messages to your ex.
2. Some would start the drunk dialing (Man, this can be pathetic move but it does happen).
3. Some would do the drunk home visits (This is more pathetic than Item 2 but this can be reality).
4. Some would pose some threat such as suicide, suicide attempts, self inflict cuts, etc.
5. Some will stay in the hospital for few days due to heart failure. Some people can’t handle emotional tensions which can lead to a farewell in life.
Now this is the time when family and friends will come to rescue you in order to overcome the breakup. But no matter how you wallow, there is always the ponder and going back to the old memory lane.
Why did break up happen in the first place?
Surely somewhere, somehow, things have deviated from its happy beginning. Expectations haven’t met. Priorities clash. Until the world collides. Everything is just numb.
Well, realizing it, break up never happened over night. There’s that deep reason behind the cover up arguments. Most of the time, the reason that were given during the break up moment is the sugar coated explanations to make the break up… well valid…
If you got dumped… Well sad to say, you were the one who lost yourself in the relationship. You invested so much in the relationship that you lost your identity and self worth. You deviated from the inner you. It sounded not fair but I guess the reality is that it is true.
You shed tears and red wine became your ally. Consider yourself lucky when your best friend is there for you and listen to your crying and whining for hours! Because the reality is, the other party will never come back.
Looking on the bright side, break ups is the opportunity for you to rethink. What could you have done in the process? Why did the sweaty palms and the sudden heart sink just died in the process?
Once you figure out your short comings and the mistakes that you did that’s when you learned your lessons. That’s the beauty of break ups. It is painful but it is the learning process that’s worthwhile.
Because the thing is, when the tears run dry. You’re ready to smile. You learned your lessons. And now you’re willing to embrace again. And that’s when a worth while person will come along. (wink).
As a continuation of crisis management, here’s the second unforgettable experience living and working as an expat in a foreign land.
Disclaimer:
The aim of sharing the stories below is to portray the importance of crisis management and is not insinuating racial and country discrimination. Thank you.
Political Unrest
From the country where I am from, politics and revolutions are nothing new. We’re famous for People Power, a revolution to outcast and revamp the government leaders. We had few of coup d’etat, some successful and some failed. If you’re a citizen of the country undergoing political chaos, life moves on the usual phase. However, if you’re a foreigner, political unrest will trigger your fear.
Thailand was already in political chaos since early 2008.
However, it is still business as usual. Product and technology updates to partners are critical in order to ensure proper positioning and sell.
It was the last week of August 2008, few weeks prior my relocation to Singapore when I was sent to conduct a technology workshop to our business partner in Bangkok Thailand.
When I reached Bangkok, everything appears normal. Reaching the Plaza Athenee Bangkok, the hotel was calm and serene. It’s loaded with business travelers, so I thought there’s nothing to be worry about. Business continues and I prepared for the workshop, hopefully there will be opportunities that will come along.
While conducting the workshop, the partner’s office is equipped with television which telecast the news updates about Bangkok and the political challenges it is facing due to the conflicts of People’s Alliance for Democracy (PAD) and People’s Power Party (PPP). The said political chaos started since 2005-2006 and continued again on 2008.
I was occupied with the workshop topics and preparations that I missed out watching the evening news. I missed out the news that Thailand is already foreseen to undergo the state of emergency.
In the middle of my workshop, I received a call from my colleague:
Colleague: Where are you?
Me: I’m still in Bangkok, middle of the workshop. Why? Do we need to discuss opportunities?
Colleague: No. Haven’t you watched the news this morning? Thailand government has already issued that Bangkok is going to be under the state of emergency. Get out of the Thailand. NOW. BE SAFE.
Me: What am I gonna do?
Colleague: Get a flight and leave now. You don’t want to get stuck in Bangkok. Protesters will disrupt the air travels and the international airport.
After receiving the news, I immediately requested for a break session from the workshop that I’m conducting and immediately watched the news telecast. After confirming my colleague’s news, I immediately sent a message to my bosses that I will need to fly back to Kuala Lumpur. I seek the assistance of the business partner for me to go back to the hotel immediately. The workshop was discontinued immediately.
Me to the receptionist: I need you to book me a flight this afternoon or evening for Kuala Lumpur.
I gave her the details of my flight for rebooking.
Receptionist: Malaysia Airlines has already cancelled its flight to Bangkok and vice versa. I will need to liaised with Thai Airways for your flight rebooking.
Me: Thank you very much. Here’s the address of Plaza Athenee, can you write the address in Thai? (On my mind: This is for me not to say anything to taxi driver and just hand over the address. I’m avoiding to be noticed as foreigner.)
I received a call from my managing director while in the middle of explanation to my workshop attendees that I need to leave immediately.
Managing Director: Get a flight immediately and leave the country. Get a hotel limo and be safe.
After reaching the hotel, it was very ironic that the hotel is like a cemetery. It was very quiet and all hotel guests have left the vicinity. The area of Plaza Athenee is known to be the place of residences for most of the expats living and working in Bangkok. During that time, as I alighted from the taxi on my way inside the hotel, Thai military men have surrounded the area and protecting it against potential danger.
The hotel immediately prepared a hotel limo that will take me privately and safely to the airport.
After few minutes of packing and checking out, I was on my way to the international airport. The hotel limo took the side streets to avoid the protesters until we reached the highway. Still I can see the people in the street gathering their packs. My mind was empty and all I can think of is to get my flight and leave.
The last thing that I can think of is the fear that I will get stranded in the country if international flights are discontinued due to protesters.
Bangkok International airport was packed with travelers hoping to get a flight and leave. Most of the international flights were already cancelled. Thai Airways accommodated the passengers. I managed to get a flight that night thru Thai Airways.
Thankfully, I reached Kuala Lumpur safe and sound.
The following morning, I was watching the news from Kuala Lumpur. The news announced that Thailand international airport has to disrupt services due to political unstability. Few days later, Bangkok was announced to be under the state of emergency.
Working life continues and my travels were redirected to Indonesia for few opportunities.
While talking to my colleague,
Colleague: Well, if you get stranded in Thailand, you can always seek help from Malaysia embassy.
Me: (Laugh). You must have forgotten that I should be seeking help from Philippine embassy.
All of us were laughing.
After the incident, I learned that life can’t be controlled and crisis can appear out of nowhere without warning though signs are present and it’s up to us to acknowledge it. It is then I developed the habit that every time I travel whether it is business or holidays, I always remind the people that I love, cared, and treasured how much I love them. With constant flying, you will never know what can happen and when you will see them again.
Working as an expat in different countries, there are a lot of advantages and privileges at hand. However, these advantages are also reciprocated with challenges which can occur in a pattern or sometimes it can occur abrupt.
One area that expats need to look into is to handle crisis management. Though most of us knows the value of crisis management, implementing it in real life isn’t that easy. Foreigners and immigrants by nature always possess the thinking of being prepared for the worst. There’s always the back up plan when any disaster happens in the location they are currently residing or visiting with.
Though crisis management is often referred and talked about in large corporations, however it too can happen in an individual experience.
The applicability of crisis management can happen frequently or the opposite.
However there are two events that happened where I cannot forget and learned the usage of crisis management.
Being an expat for years and having been relocated couple of times, I have learned to adopt crisis management in everyday living. Here’s the two particular events where I wouldn’t forget as I believe it had involved my own life if I didn’t make a right decision in a short time.
Disclaimer:
The aim of sharing the stories below is to portray the importance of crisis management and is not insinuating racial and country discrimination. Thank you.
An Indecent Taxi Proposal:
I had a meeting with the technical team of one of our business partners. The partner’s office location is approximately 30 mins. (excluding traffic time) outside of Kuala Lumpur. The meetings and discussions dragged until night time. I wasn’t driving so my only recourse is to get a cab from a taxi stand in a nearby mall – One Utama. The business partner is gracious enough to drop me to One Utama since calling a cab wasn’t easy as well.
Around 8:30PM I managed to get a cab after a long queue. I told the driver of my destination and off we drove. From Bandar Utama, we took the highway approach as it is faster.
While inside the cab I was quiet as I noticed the cab driver was glancing from the rear mirror. I felt uncomfortable.
In the middle of the highway the cab driver started the conversation:
Driver: Hi Miss. You don’t sound from here. Where are you from?
Me: (Hesitant) I’m from Philippines.
Suddenly he gave me the grin which me and my friends call it ‘the dog smile’. It’s that kind of smile which makes you very uncomfortable that you just want to leave.
Driver: So you know how to speak Malay? You cantik cantik yah. (Translation: You’re pretty pretty yah.)
Me: (Still pretend to be gracious) Thank you. I only know few Malay phrases.
Driver: You know I have a lot of Filipino girlfriends from bars, pubs, helpers. I love and support them all.
Me: On my mind -> (Oh crap. Here’s the downgraded outlook to Filipino women. Grrrr… I just remained silent.)
The driver then suddenly talked to himself in the local Malay dialect and I just pretend I didn’t hear or understand what he says. I keep on looking at my watch and is praying that we reached my destination sooner than I expected. In the middle of the highway and without any buildings at sight he suddenly blurted out:
Driver: Can you be my girlfriend? I give you 3000 Ringgits tonight and we go to hotel. Can?
Me: On my mind -> Darn. Never in my life had I been looked in this manner! Damn you!
And my heart suddenly skipped. I couldn’t breathe well. It’s a combination of changed in emotions due to anger yet my brain has to be calm. If I make a wrong move, he can just do anything to me and just dumped me out of nowhere. During that time I was reading a lot of rape cases in the local newspaper headlines. I’m still a foreigner in the country. As I couldn’t breathe I was about to faint and I was fighting. I was fighting for my life. All I can think of is to pray to the God that I know that He will protect me that night. Everything is happening in a matter of seconds.
My will was strong enough.
Me: Uncle, can I drop my things first at my destination?
Driver: Okay. Can.
And he was giving the happy look while my mind was creating the plot to get out of the situation. If I reacted nasty to him, it will be negative and who knows what can happen. I have to think wisely. I’m not in the driver’s seat.
I just close my eyes and think. I leave everything to fate. When I opened my eyes again I saw that we were already in the city of Kuala Lumpur. Now I have hopes.
Almost reaching the condominium, the driver again confirmed:
Driver: So I wait for you downstairs okay?
Me: Sorry uncle I changed my mind. I don’t want to go with you to hotel.
Driver: (Disappointed). How about makan? (Translation: How about we go for dinner?)
We were already entering the condominium gate and there were few security guards on duty that time.
Me: Sudah makan Uncle. (Translation: Already had my dinner.)
Me: Uncle, my boyfriend is waiting upstairs ( I totally have to lie!!!). It is not good if he hears your offer. Do you want me to call him now? (And another lie!!!)
The driver just accepted my payment and left. Grumpy and disappointed.
I was still trembling when I alighted from the cab. I was still fearful and my legs were shaking.
Good thing is my friends were there to listen and comfort me on what happened.
After that incident I decided to call the taxi companies in Kuala Lumpur during night time and avoid getting a cab from taxi queues or even getting it from the streets. Sometimes even when I get a cab I call my friends and tell them the taxi number where I’m in.
The moral of the story is that crisis happens anytime. Fighting crisis in a head to head basis (an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth) wouldn’t be a good idea. In situations where you only have seconds to think and react, you have to carefully weigh the options as sometimes it can cause you your life.
The second crisis management story continues in the next article titled ‘Political Unrest’.
As of yesterday September 7th, the world population is estimated at 6.9 billion. Surprisingly, the number of mobile phones across the globe is not far behind. According to Wikipedia, mobile phones population across the globe is approximately over 5 billion.
The battle in the mobile world has upraised during the last decade. Whilst ten years ago, owning a personal mobile phone was restricted to the upper class of the society, today, a mobile phone is but a commodity. In Singapore, you can observe that the working class population, an individual within the range of monthly income of SGD 2,000 (+/- 10%) owns at least 2 mobile phones.
In China, the mobile subscribers population is approximately at 1.3 billion and the mobile phone population is at 900 millions. India is not far behind with a 1.2 billion subscribers and 850 millions mobile phones.
The fragmented competition for the mobile industry paved the way to the various mobile phone operating systems – Apple’s iOS, Google’s Android, RIM’s Blackberry OS 7, Samsung Bada, the good old Symbian, Palm’s WebOS, etc.
Aside from the mobile phone operating systems, the stiff market competition gave the pressure for the mobile phone operators to be at its best. It also has created a key trend in 2011, that is the social media networks.
In social media networks, the consumers are analyzed based on their mobile phone behavior and their location based patterns. The numbers that you frequently dialed from your mobile phone is being understood by analysts paving the way to creation of various social media models in order to provide you with the best mobile subscription package that fits your lifestyle.
Location based services on the other hand, analyses the places that you frequently visits. In countries like Indonesia, Philippines, Thailand, and even Malaysia, you will notice that a change in your location gives the way for the various advertisings that targets your location. Sometimes, just entering the malls, you will be bombarded with various SMS or text messages from mall boutiques giving away discounts or sales.
Aside from the purely telecommunications social media analysis, mobile applications are also being used for majority of consumer based study. Twitter (http://www.twitter.com) is one of the key source of social media information. It is said that Twitter gave the consumers ‘the freedom of speech’. Hotel and tourism reviews mobile apps (Tripadvisor, Kayak, etc) are also a major contributor for the said study. Foursquare (http://foursquare.com) uses the location based approach in terms of social media. For the businesses, location based marketing paves the way to understanding the location patterns giving the consumers the based packages and promotions that suit their travel, shopping, dining lifestyle, and the like.
While there are a lot of advantages of social media, the major downside of social media networks is the consumer privacy. It can sometimes be exploit and can be used against a consumer for variety of reasons.
As always, I always mention that if you don’t want to be traced and searched, the best way to do so is to turn off thy mobile phone. However, these days not using a mobile phone is like living in the prehistoric stone age.
In our modern world, the business and technology keeps on innovating in order to thrive. And in order to compete and thrive is to give the best to the market audience.
Some of us has already come across the word “Sexaholic or Sexaholics”, a term that correlates to sexual fixation. A fix to addiction via sexual activities.
Like any other addiction, a sexaholic behaves the same; when the urge starts to kick in, the sexual fix needs to be satisfied.
Though the sexaholic statistics still remains a mystery, most of the known sexaholics are from the male gender. Yes. Men. I believe it boils down on how the male species are genetically wired and how men and women are being perceived by the society. Famous names who were rumored to be under the treatment of sex addictions were: Tiger Woods, David Duchovny, Michael Douglas, Charlie Sheen, among others.
How can a person become a sexaholic?
The difference between sex addiction and the other variations of addictions (drugs and alcohols) is the method of acquisition. Drug and alcohol addiction would involve a certain threshold and a dependency to an object. It all starts with small amounts of drugs (cough syrup, heroin, etc) until the tolerance increases and addiction kicks in.
Sexual addiction on the other hand does not involve tolerance and no dependency either. Sexual desires emanates from the brain. A desire can lead to a strong sexual fantasy and the search for sexual partners kicks in. Sexual partners can be anyone, it can even lead to paying dominatrices. There is no object dependencies in this manner; for sexual addiction, it is all in the a person’s mind.
In this sense, there is a fine line between sexual addiction and the regular sexual desires. Sexual desires become sexaholism will all depend on the reasons why sexual activities satisfy the cravings or the fix. For a sexaholic, when the sexual cravings are satisfied, he/she becomes a better person, accepted, everything becomes a better world. The same cravings will happen again and the same satisfaction is justified.
Most common cause of sexaholism is depression, a struggle within a person’s internal self when a person feels rejection. Like any other addiction, the basic need of approval and acceptance is still the core of a sexaholic’s wants, needs, and desires.
Sexaholism is all about the person and the society. Unfortunately, there are norms, culture, and tradition that is being shaped by society and the judgement to sexaholics can become a downside to a sexaholic’s acceptance of the problem and the acceptance to undergo therapy or medication.
How can you tell if you’re a sexual addict?
There are various societal groups that are willing to help for sexaholics recovery. An alternative and probably the best way is to speak to a psychologist or your shrink.
Online quizzes are also available in order for a person to recognize if there’s a hint of sexual addiction:
Everyone deserves second chances. Recovering from sexaholism is more challenging as it requires a mind and self control. However, it still begins with acceptance of the problem and moving on to recovery with a healthy and happy support system.
While most of us lives in accordance and acceptance by society, we must understand, accept and support those loved ones whom undergone a cop-out, or even a Freudian cop-out.
In the spirit of giving, a project was created to provide food to the needy.
A free lunch a day from Monday to Saturday is going to be conducted by the Blessed Sacrament Church. The said lunch a day is freely offered to all the needy regardless of race and religion.
As an act of charity, it would be appreciated for volunteers who will support this Meal From the Heart Project from the Blessed Sacrament Church.
For more information on how you can help, please visit this site:
Drinking our traditional chocolate drink..
The zucchini chiffon cake made by my aunt..
Birthday flowers from family…
Lovely smiles…
Birthday visitors..
My nephew with his innocent stare…
My cousin with his look…
life's but a journey 